As a Coach, I watch people sit stuck all day long. They truly want change but they continue to play the same song over and over again in their heads....
...I'm not motivated enough to do this.
...I don't know what I'm doing.
...I've never succeeded in the past.
...this is too hard.
I understand, because I used to be one of those people who liked to feel sorry for myself that I wasn't smart enough, confident enough, bold enough, motivated enough to actually make things happen.
You aren't going to wake up with the change you want.....you have to find it and make it happen. One day, one goal and one step at a time.
1. Set goals that scare the crap out of you.....every single week.
I'm not talking once a year on January 1st....
I need you doing this every. single. week.
If you think you can sneak by and get unstuck by setting goals that feel safe, you are fooling yourself.
Guess where you find those feelings of, I CAN TOTALLY DO THIS??.....on the other side of goals that scare the crap out of you. I swear you won't find them playing it safe.
2. Get around people who don't let you quit on yourself.
Do you hang around people who play it safe? Who love complaining about being stuck in life? Who rarely make things happen?
You need to find a new tribe. That one isn't taking you anywhere.
My business took off this past year because I started hanging out people who look fear square in the eyes and keep on going.
3. Don't quit until you've learned that new thing or mastered that obstacle....and then keep going.
You want to learn a new skill in your business. Or go back to school. Or get in control of your daily habits...
...I don't care what it is but don't you dare quit on yourself until you get there.
Quitting is letting fear win. It's letting our laziness win. It's saying to yourself, I don't care how bad you want this change or new thing in life, I'd rather sit around wishing for things in life.
The magic thing is, once you start conquering fears around this thing regularly, you won't quit on yourself anymore.
Because you'll have smashed those limiting beliefs about what you think you're not capable of right beneath your foot (and I mean really smearing them in). You'll move into this space of knowing you can move mountains and do hard things and then you'll keep doing hard things.